Why Do Some People Always End Up with the Wrong Partners?
In previous articles, it has been noted that one reason for an unhappy marriage is choosing the wrong partner, which accounts for about ten percent of marital dissatisfaction. Many people may not take this seriously, thinking that by being careful, they can find a suitable partner, but it's not that simple.
Take, for example, a male internet user who continually searches but always ends up with women who are greedy, vain, and manipulative. Despite claiming he dislikes such women, he consistently finds himself drawn to them. Initially oblivious to this pattern, he eventually comes to recognize it. Similarly, some female internet users struggle to find honest men, repeatedly encountering those who are deceptive and focused only on superficial charm, rather than genuine connections. These scenarios all highlight the issue of choosing the wrong partner.
Some might think, "Isn't this just fate?" However, accepting this as destiny overlooks the real underlying reasons. According to the principles of physiognomy, those who consistently choose the wrong partners often have certain issues with their eyes. Firstly, their eye shape may not be aesthetically pleasing, with droopy corners or sagging eyelids. Secondly, their gaze might exhibit excitement, aggression, or a tendency to look sideways. These characteristics often arise from an inflated sense of self, leading them to make choices based on vanity, which becomes an addictive mindset. Consequently, despite the other person's flaws, they become blinded by their own enjoyment and biases, as if under a mental spell.
Why do some people find the right partners? Perhaps they meet someone of the opposite sex and feel attracted, but when deciding whether to pursue a relationship, they rationally consider various aspects of the other person's character—such as whether they are filial, can share life's ups and downs, and have the patience to care for future generations.
This approach is consistent with the ancient wisdom of seeking a virtuous partner. Even if someone is deeply attracted to another, if they lack these essential qualities, it becomes evident that the relationship will adversely affect the marriage, the family, and future generations. Therefore, pursuing such a relationship should be avoided. Conversely, those who choose the wrong partners often have an inflated sense of self, prioritizing personal comfort over family responsibilities and chasing after fleeting desires. This notion of love, commonly promoted in contemporary society, lacks rationality, and the outcomes tend to be tragic.
Ultimately, it all stems from the conditioning of our hearts. For example, some women seek men not for emotional connection but for material benefits, while others pursue relationships to satisfy their vanity of feeling loved. They marry not a person, but their own needs, and when these needs remain unmet, the marriage is destined to fail.
In physiognomy, this is reflected in the eyes. Realizing this can instill fear, but fear is useless. The key is found in what your heart truly desires, as this will ultimately shape your future.