How Long Does It Usually Take to Find a Partner?

As the days pass, I watch my friends find happiness with their partners and live sweet lives together, while I remain single and feel the loneliness of time passing. Love brings both hope and frustration; how many people regret missing love opportunities or their past impulsiveness? True fate is something you encounter rather than actively seek. Today, Teacher Fanxin is using metaphysics and psychology to offer a test to predict how long it might take for you to find love.

Test Method: Answer the following questions in order and total your scores. Then, check your test results based on the total score. (Choosing A is worth 1 point, B is 2 points, C is 3 points, and D is 4 points.)

1. It's Valentine's Day, and you recently broke up with your ex a week ago. You see them having fun with an attractive person, and you recently turned down a great suitor. What is your immediate reaction?

A: I would reconsider dating the suitor I turned down.

B: I think my ex is trying to get over the breakup.

C: I would privately criticize my ex.

D: I feel my ex is ungrateful.

2. At the beach, memories of your ex surface when you find a shell just like one they gave you. What is your first reaction?

A: I would ignore it.

B: I would pick it up and throw it away hard.

C: I would bury it in the sand.

D: I would take it home as a memento.

3. In a dream, a close friend of the opposite sex suddenly kneels to confess their love while you're still fond of your ex. What do you do first?

A: I would accept them without hesitation.

B: I would ask for two days to think things over.

C: I would consult friends for advice.

D: I would reject them firmly.

4. A good friend wants to introduce you to someone and encourages you to dress up nicely, but you have just under 1000 yuan in savings. What would you do?

A: I'd spend 500 yuan on an outfit.

B: I'd invest 1000 yuan in my appearance.

C: I'd spend 200 yuan to dress up.

D: I wouldn't spend any money on dressing up.

5. At a gathering, someone resembling your ex but with a different personality shows interest in you. How would you react?

A: I'd try to get to know them better before deciding.

B: I would believe it's destiny and go with the flow.

C: I'd reject them, fearing I'd get hurt again.

D: I'd react strongly against them and hurt them intentionally.

6. After completing a major project, you have a week off. How would you spend this time?

A: I'd actively reach out to potential dates.

B: I'd travel or join social events.

C: I'd visit family or catch up with old classmates.

D: I'd stay home alone watching TV or eating.

7. An opposite-sex acquaintance, known not to like exercise, starts frequenting your gym weekly after learning you like fitness and one day asks for your help. What is your first thought?

A: They're planning to confess their feelings to me.

B: They're interested in me and want to gauge my feelings.

C: They're likely looking to borrow money.

D: They have hidden motives, and I won't engage with them.

8. Your partner, a celebrity, is on a reality show and is seen getting close to another popular artist. What do you think first?

A: I assume it's just for the show.

B: I'd feel slightly uneasy but trust them.

C: I'd call to address it directly.

D: I'd believe they don't love me anymore.

9. You're in a meeting when a close friend of the opposite sex calls repeatedly. What would be your first action?

A: I'd assume something urgent happened and call back right away.

B: I'd think it might be a mistake and text to confirm.

C: I'd assume they're joking and text to scold them.

D: I'd consider them annoying and ignore them.

10. On a trip with someone you both like, they ask you to pretend to be their partner to experience couple life. How do you react?

A: I'd play along enthusiastically.

B: I’d use the opportunity to get closer to them.

C: I'd think they're too calculating and refuse.

D: I'd strongly resist and set boundaries.

11. In a dream, you hear a childhood friend call your name, and upon waking, you find they're actually calling you. What do you think?

A: I'd suggest we meet up.

B: I’d believe they miss me.

C: I’d think I'm overanalyzing.

D: I'd fear something bad might happen soon.

Find the answers on the following page

11-18 points:

You're an optimistic and lively person who thrives in social situations. Your energy is contagious, making you quite popular with the opposite sex. Though you have quality suitors, you view love as sacred and tend to prefer friendships, seeking someone who matches your interests and values. You focus on finding chemistry and, once discovered, you'll pursue it. You might find love within 2-3 months.

Advice: Try to remain calm in love; it can open more doors for you.

19-26 points:

You're a romantic with lofty ideals about love, dreaming of a fairy-tale romance. You desire a partner with wealth or looks but often dismiss sincere but ordinary suitors. Your pragmatic view on love links it with material wealth, leading to a prolonged single status. Love might take 6 to 12 months to find you.

Advice: Relaxing your partner criteria could help love arrive sooner.

27-34 points:

Honest and straightforward, you aren't fond of gossip but also lead a somewhat uneventful life. You long for steady, unchanging love and can't tolerate a partner's past mistakes. While you value stability, your bluntness can drive potential partners away, extending the time to find love to about 1 to 1.5 years.

Advice: Communicate more softly for better results.

35-44 points:

Introverted and reflective, you keep your feelings close. Some past experiences have left emotional scars, making you wary in love. Even when meeting suitable partners, your suspicion and concerns can create barriers. It might take 2 years to adjust your outlook and embrace love.

Advice: Learn to forgive the past and move confidently toward the future.