Sudden Appearance of Moles After Marriage: Signs of a Spouse's Infidelity?
Dr. Zheng has long believed that many events in a person’s life come down to fate—both destiny and position. If fate hasn’t arrived or is disrupted, trouble may follow. To avoid harming one’s fate, Dr. Zheng advises readers to be mindful of taboos related to destiny and position—knowing what’s okay to do and what to avoid. Below are some commonly circulated folk taboos. They may not all be accurate or apply to everyone, but Dr. Zheng believes it’s important to be aware of them. Readers can refer to Dr. Zheng’s related blog posts for more background on these taboos.
Love Section
1. Couples who take large close-up portrait photos together are said to be destined to break up.
2. Couples who exchange “Stone Record” gifts are said to be destined to break up.
3. If either partner tattoos the other’s name (or gets a love-themed tattoo), they are said to be destined to break up.
4. Couples who visit Beijing’s Zizhuyuan together are said to be destined to break up.
5. Couples shouldn’t give each other umbrellas, as it symbolizes separation.
6. Couples shouldn’t give each other shoes, as it implies sending the other away. A common counter is for the recipient to give the giver a coin when receiving the shoes.
7. Girls in a relationship shouldn’t knit scarves for their boyfriends, as they often break up shortly afterward.
8. Single women who are dating shouldn’t casually play matchmaker for others; whether the introductions succeed or fail, it may negatively affect their own relationship.
9. A woman with a mole on her right arm is said to have a past-life connection. The mole should be on the inner side of the arm, facing the body. A red mole suggests a past-life marriage; a black mole suggests there wasn’t a past-life bond but there’s a chance to continue one in this life.
10. Couples with a six-year age difference often have unsatisfactory marriages. The six years refer to the age gap between partners.
11. Age gaps of three, six, or nine years are considered polarizing matches—either very good or very poor.
12. Marriages between people with very common surnames and those with uncommon surnames are said to be more likely to end in divorce; relationships are also more likely to break up. Surname rankings are listed in the classic “Hundred Family Surnames.”
Taboos Section
1. Don’t point at the moon with your finger, or the moon may “cut” your ear. Some who’ve tried this report ear pain, and a few even injure their ears.
2. On the Winter Solstice, don’t count the dumplings you make, or you may get marks on your face. Some who tried it found small white spots on their faces the next day.
3. If there’s a newborn at home, men especially should avoid coming home late. If they do, it’s best to linger by the door for a bit—say, smoke a cigarette—because it’s believed wandering spirits may frighten the baby.
4. Don’t pocket found money; spend it right away.
5. Using a red wallet leads to financial loss or makes it hard to save.
6. Hotels are said to carry heavy yin energy and odd happenings. Avoid rooms at the very beginning or end of the hallway. Keep the bathroom light on while sleeping. When you sleep, sprawl in an “8” shape or in various awkward positions—but don’t lie on one side leaving a large empty space on the bed.
7. Don’t compare hand sizes among family members.
8. When something seems sure to go well, the outcome often flips—especially if early signs look positive.
9. Passing by your ancestors’ graves without paying respects may lead to illness.
10. Don’t talk about people during the day, and don’t talk about ghosts at night.
11. Stepping on manhole covers brings bad luck and affects your fortune. If you step on one, quickly pat your backside.
12. No matter where you are, if you dash to the bathroom, it will definitely rain.
13. Women on their menstrual cycle shouldn’t touch incense or similar ritual items.
14. Whistling outside at night can attract wandering spirits.
15. Some things are better left unsaid; once mentioned, they may come true. For example, say “I haven’t had a cold in ages,” and you’ll likely catch one soon after.
16. Don’t mock others’ shortcomings, or you may find yourself in a similar situation.
17. If you fake illness to skip a date or class, you may actually get sick in the way you claimed.
18. If you buy a comb (especially a fine-toothed one) and have a bad dream, don’t speak in the morning; instead, break off one tooth of the comb to avert the omen.
19. If you have a bad dream, flip your pillow over and spit on it twice to remedy it.
20. A twitch in the left eye signifies money coming; a twitch in the right eye signifies trouble.
21. People born in the Year of the Sheep during winter—especially when there’s no grass—are said to have a harder fate.
22. If a builder hides paper figures inside a wall, future residents will face misfortune.
23. If an elderly person passes away after a bowel movement, it signifies their descendants will become wealthy.
24. If elders or children take a special liking to someone, that person is said to have good fate and to be a natural benefactor.
Scar Section
1. Dreaming of losing teeth signifies that a family member may pass away.
2. A mole, dent, or scar on the bridge of the nose (between the eyes) indicates the person may leave their hometown.
3. There’s a saying that girls must go through a little misfortune in childhood to grow up well (meaning minor accidents or injuries; it’s rare to find a girl with no childhood facial marks at all).
4. Many people have small scars around the eyes; folklore says such people are so fortunate that heaven grows jealous and leaves a mark (these are usually childhood injuries).
5. When a wife is pregnant, the husband may develop red eye bumps (styes). If the wife isn’t pregnant but the husband has red bumps, it may indicate something ominous.
Mole Section
1. A mole in the armpit signifies wealth.
2. A woman with a mole on the right side of her neck is destined for great wealth.
3. Moles on both legs signify authority, often leading to having attendants or being a boss.
4. Moles on the backs of both legs signify virtue and blessings, leading to an abundant life.
5. Moles behind the knees signify wealth, suggesting prosperity in livestock or agriculture.
6. Moles on the knees signify accumulating wealth and a strong financial position.
7. Moles on the kneecaps signify fame and power, leading to success and recognition.
8. Moles on the tops of the feet signify hard work but eventual success.
9. Moles on the soles of the feet signify nobility and high status. If the instep is high and prominent, it indicates hidden wealth—provided the feet are well padded.
10. Moles between the toes signify many servants and a wide social circle.
11. If a woman suddenly develops cheek moles after marriage, it suggests her husband may be unfaithful. Conversely, if a man develops cheek moles, it suggests his wife may be unfaithful.
Body Section
1. Women with snake-like skin on their legs are considered fortunate; those with “chicken skin” (gooseflesh) on their arms are next.
2. Women with long arm hair are considered fortunate.
3. Women with clear palm lines on the right hand are destined for a good life.
4. Women with soft hair tend to have good temperaments; those with coarse hair may be more blunt.
5. If all ten fingernails show small sun-like spots (the “half-moons” or lunulae), it indicates excellent health; fewer half-moons suggest average health.
6. People with long waists and short legs are considered lazy.
7. Those whose second toes are longer than their other toes are said to be handsome men or beautiful women.
8. Those whose second toes are longer than their big toes are unlikely to support their parents.
9. If the second toe is longer than the big toe, it suggests the father may pass away before the mother.
10. Women with a slight square shape along the central line of the palm will never worry about food and clothing, leading to a relatively affluent life.
11. If the central line of the palm is very smooth and rounded, it indicates high intelligence.
12. Clench your fist and examine the lines by the side of the pinky to see whether you’re fated for a second marriage.
13. To gauge whether a man will become wealthy, observe the area below his waist and above his buttocks (the spot where women often gain weight). If he has a flat butt and little flesh around the waist, he’s unlikely to become wealthy.
14. If the index finger is longer than the ring finger, it’s said to indicate a tendency toward homosexuality.
15. Bring your hands together and look against the light: if there are gaps between the fingers, you may be a spendthrift; tightly closed fingers suggest you’re good at saving. Men are read on the left hand; women on the right.
16. A man with cotton-soft palms and a woman with firm, lean hands are considered fortunate.
17. If toenails are as thin as a snail’s shell, it indicates a life of hard work.
18. People with soft, thick hands are considered fortunate; if a wealthy woman has soft hands, it’s an even stronger sign she’ll marry well.
19. If the pinky extends beyond the top joint of the ring finger, it indicates good fortune—the more it extends, the better. For men, the left hand represents themselves, while the right represents their partner (for example, if a man’s right pinky extends beyond the top joint of the ring finger, it suggests his future partner will be fortunate).
Facial Features Section
1. A small hole in the ear—sometimes called a “smart hole”—indicates good fortune.
2. If someone’s features aren’t especially striking but one feature stands out—such as bright, clear eyes—they’re likely to have good fate and be a benefactor.
3. A gap in the middle of the teeth indicates good fortune and luck.
4. A gap between the teeth is also said to suggest weak ties with parents. Even if both parents are alive, time together may be short and the bond shallow.
5. Earlobes represent a person’s future benefactors; the larger the earlobes, the more benefactors. People with protruding ears often had a difficult childhood.
6. People with small earlobes tend to be more astute.
7. Those with large, thick earlobes are destined for a life of comfort.
8. If the nostrils have a threshold-like ridge, it indicates the ability to retain wealth; otherwise, even high earners may struggle to keep it.
9. A fleshy nose with a rounded tip indicates good financial luck.
10. Women with fleshy faces are considered fortunate.
11. Men with short, thick necks and large, fleshy noses are destined for great wealth.
12. Men should have high, broad foreheads—but not bulging; receding hairlines don’t count. A smooth, flat forehead suggests a broad-minded person with strong achievements. Many wealthy, influential people fit this description.
13. Men’s faces shouldn’t be too thin; although small faces are fashionable now, very thin faces with high cheekbones can feel unapproachable.
14. Regardless of gender, people with angular faces—square faces or very high cheekbones—tend to be less easygoing.
15. Men with long upper lips (or long philtrums) who usually show only their lower teeth when speaking are measured and prudent. Conversely, those with protruding upper teeth who show their gums when talking may boast or struggle with communication—traits that skew to extremes.