Assess Your Social Skills: What Challenges Do You Face?

Life is intrinsically linked to social interactions. If you want to harmoniously coexist with others and seek mutual benefits, strong social skills are essential. In life, there are always individuals with impressive professional abilities who aren't adept at socializing; they often find it challenging to achieve outstanding success. Conversely, some people with average skills but excellent social abilities can leverage others' strengths to achieve rapid success. Today, Teacher Fanxin will use metaphysics, the I Ching, and psychology to offer a test to identify your main social obstacles.

Test Method: Please answer the following questions in order, then add up your scores. Finally, determine your test results based on your total score. (Choosing A is 1 point, B is 2 points, C is 3 points, and D is 4 points.)

1. If you and a friend co-founded a company, but your partner frequently uses health reasons to avoid work, leaving you to handle all responsibilities alone, how would you respond?

A: I would also use the same excuse to avoid work.

B: I would confront them face-to-face.

C: I would have a private discussion with them.

D: I would manage the company while providing emotional support to them.

2. If a leader with whom you usually have a strained relationship is being pursued for debts on the street and is at risk of being harmed, and you are nearby, what would be your immediate reaction?

A: I would feel very scared and walk away.

B: I would record the situation on my phone.

C: I would observe and decide later whether to help.

D: I would rush over to help without hesitation.

3. If you are going on your honeymoon to Japan next week, and your partner's boss requests that your partner cancel the trip for urgent work matters, what would be your initial reaction?

A: I would insist my partner not go to work.

B: I would let my partner make their own decision.

C: I would reluctantly support my partner in going to work.

D: I would fully support my partner in going to work without hesitation.

4. In your subconscious, which of the following scenarios seems most likely to occur?

A: You encounter your boss in the gym with a close friend of the same sex.

B: Your dog unexpectedly has 12 puppies overnight.

C: You and your partner end up in court over a relationship dispute.

D: You sacrifice your life to save a friend.

5. If you are a professional actor with a noticeable scar from a burn on your waist, and the director asks you to perform shirtless, what would be your initial reaction?

A: I would refuse the director with various excuses.

B: I would perform without hesitation.

C: I would discuss with the director how to cover the scar.

D: I would secretly cover the scar before performing.

6. If today marks your sixth year at the company and, despite your hard work, your salary has only risen by 500 yuan while a new employee earns more than you, what would be your first reaction?

A: I would feel deeply upset but remain silent.

B: I would ask the leader for an explanation.

C: I would assume the new employee is related to a leader.

D: I would reflect on my own abilities.

7. If during a business trip, you miss the last bus back to the company, forcing you to stay in a hotel for the night, and suddenly you hear a strong man knocking on your door, what would be your first reaction?

A: I would be very scared and not open the door.

B: I would assume the person is intoxicated.

C: I would immediately call the police.

D: I would pretend I am not there.

8. In a dream, you see a stack of 100 yuan cash on your desk with a letter underneath. Suddenly, a leader calls out to you; what would be your first thought?

A: I would think I've been paid.

B: I would assume it's a bonus from the boss.

C: I would think I've been fired, and this is my final paycheck.

D: I would suspect the leader is testing my integrity.

9. If you are at a dinner party and notice your ex, who once abandoned you and is now the boss of a well-known company, what would be your first reaction?

A: I would try to keep my distance from them.

B: I would take the initiative to greet them.

C: I would instinctively mock them.

D: I would secretly contact them later.

10. If a friend tells you they might be laid off and asks you to plead with the leader on their behalf, what would be your first reaction?

A: I would dismiss their request.

B: I would find them unreasonable.

C: I would offer them comfort.

D: I would help them look for another job.

11. If you are shopping with your partner and suddenly notice a colleague who often badmouths you looking distraught due to a theft, what would be your first reaction?

A: I would feel secretly pleased but ignore them.

B: I would inform other colleagues.

C: I would walk over and mock them.

D: I would take the initiative to comfort them.

See answers on the next page

11-18 points

You have a straightforward mindset, poor comprehension skills, and are quite stubborn. You easily get into disputes due to impulsiveness and feel resentful towards those with smooth social skills. In the workplace, you often prefer to work independently. Your self-righteous nature leads to obstacles without support, resulting in ongoing difficulties. Subconsciously, you may believe that others do not acknowledge you because they are envious of your talents, and excessive suspicion and fantasy may leave you increasingly isolated.

Advice: Try to cultivate a more flexible mindset and be receptive to others' suggestions to gain deeper insights.

19-26 points

You have excellent insight, enjoy discovering new things, and often fantasize, but you tend to lack persistence. You frequently promise to help others out of enthusiasm but ultimately fall short due to limited capabilities or laziness, which causes others to question your reliability. In the workplace, you like to showcase yourself, possibly leading to an arrogant demeanor where you look down on leaders with fewer abilities, creating barriers that impede your career growth.

Advice: Avoid being overly concerned with appearances, as this can lead to losses.

27-34 points

You are a thoughtful person with strong self-awareness, being shrewd and contemplative. While you enjoy making friends, you can be lax in maintaining these relationships. Initially, you are very enthusiastic towards new friends, raising expectations, but once you realize they lack utilitarian value, you make excuses to avoid them, earning a reputation for being "snobbish." Furthermore, you tend to be stingy and may take advantage of others to evade expenses, leading to strained relationships.

Advice: Work on changing some negative habits and avoid being overly focused on personal gains and losses.

35-44 points

You are helpful, grounded, and willing to give. When you find like-minded friends, you value them greatly and would go to great lengths for them. However, sometimes your strong principles and sense of morality lead you to openly criticize others' negative habits, resulting in grudges against you. Your "sharp tongue" can make it difficult for others to get close to you. Moreover, you cannot stand being taken advantage of after helping others, leading you to express frustration to friends, which may make you seem petty.

Advice: Learn to temper your words and actions; it will enhance your social interactions.