Take the Paranoia Self-Assessment
The "Huangdi Neijing" says, "Excessive joy and anger can harm the organs," meaning that unchecked emotions can impair the body’s internal functions. In everyday life, many people have obsessive tendencies, and when this mindset isn’t managed well, it can also become a source of illness.
It’s important to note that obsession is not the same as stubbornness; a healthy dose of stubbornness can lend someone a charming "principled beauty," while obsession often leads to stalemates in life, hurting both oneself and others.
Obsession-Level Psychological Test: Are your emotions "over the top"?
1. Do you hold others to unrealistic standards?
2. Do you often blame others for causing trouble?
3. Do you feel that most people are untrustworthy?
4. Do you believe you have thoughts and ideas that others do not?
5. Do you find it hard to control your temper?
6. Do you feel that others do not understand or empathize with you?
7. Do you believe others don’t give your achievements the recognition they deserve?
8. Do you often feel that others are trying to take advantage of you?
Test Scoring:
None (1 point); Very Mild (2 points); Moderate (3 points); Significant (4 points); Severe (5 points)
Test Results:
Total score below 10: No signs of obsession; congratulations, you are a calm and pleasant person.
15 to 24 points: There may be some degree of obsession. If you often feel dissatisfied with your environment, be cautious; the reason may lie within yourself.
25 points and above: You show signs of obsession. Learn to regulate your emotions and avoid going "overboard." When you face significant obstacles, consider seeking help from a psychologist or other mental health professional.
How to Effectively Control Obsessive Emotions?
1. Stay Calm Amidst Busy Schedules
Even a prime minister handles critical matters every day yet still finds time to play table tennis. Former U.S. President George W. Bush set aside time each day for cycling, and Ronald Reagan kept a routine of running for half an hour daily while in office, helping spark a nationwide fitness trend. Russian President Vladimir Putin also manages to exercise despite a packed schedule. These examples show that learning to stay calm and let go can boost our effectiveness. "Letting go" helps us become more aware and wise. Make time for an exercise routine that suits you, even when life is busy.
2. Stay Calm and Step Back from Worries
When issues arise, face them; when they pass, let them go. Cultivating a mindset of acceptance brings clarity and helps you avoid getting lost in worry. Is the problem really as troubling or frightening as it seems? And even if it happens, how much will it truly matter? Be present in the moment; peace of mind comes from realizing that whether problems appear or not, you can still be okay. Approaching situations with acceptance leads to greater awareness and wisdom.
3. Stay Calm and Treat Life as a Friend
A singer named Zhou Yunpeng expressed his view of life this way: "I am friends with fate; the friendship of gentlemen is as light as water. We are intertwined yet distant; I cannot control fate, and it does its own thing while I do mine. We simply meet and smile, letting go of past grievances." Don’t boast about your wealth, and don’t lament misfortune. Maintain a calm attitude toward your circumstances, while still putting in your own effort.