How to Deal with Heartless People

A. Move on from the past and keep the relationship steady

You take a more rational, objective view of love and wouldn't rush to judge someone's character based on a single incident from the past. Psychologically, you tend to have a short memory for grievances; you're less likely to dredge up old issues or get stuck on trivialities, and you're generally easygoing.

People like this also trust their own read on things and feel confident in their choices. So even if a partner once walked out on someone, as long as they feel they can trust them now, they don't let it rattle them. This confidence serves them well, but if they run into a deceiver, they could get hurt.

B. Ask why and seek justice for the person who was hurt

If you'd interrogate your partner about the past and take on the role of judge, you probably have a strong moral compass and a tendency to nitpick, often bringing up old issues.

They may feel unsure about their relationship, perhaps because of past hurts, or they may simply like to bargain. Psychologically, they can show some anxious or neurotic tendencies, feeling insecure and lacking a sense of belonging, which drives them to constantly scrutinize themselves, the relationship, and their partner. On the surface, it looks like a strong sense of justice for the previous victim, but in reality they're seeking security for themselves, wanting the partner with a history to promise not to repeat the same mistakes.

In relationships, staying on high alert wears them out and can also push their partner away out of sheer fatigue. In today's complex dating landscape, if they can't trust themselves or their partner, the journey of love becomes burdensome.

C. End it immediately without asking why

They often have a kind of psychological 'cleanliness,' believing love should be absolutely pure and perfect, and that any blemish can destroy that purity. Therefore, no matter how deep their feelings, if they discover any emotional flaw, they'll discard the relationship and the past without hesitation—better to break clean than settle for less than perfect. Typically, they're very stubborn; once something happens, no amount of reasoning will change their mind.

They may have psychological wounds that are especially sensitive, so they guard them fiercely. If anything threatens those wounds, they'll sever emotional ties without a second thought. People like this are likely to remain single for a long time.

D. Act like you don't know and stay quietly on guard

Even if they discover their partner has a hidden past, they may not dare to speak up and might even pretend not to know, all while lacking confidence in themselves and depending on their partner to keep a low profile.

They inherently lack self-trust and tend to believe in others instead, making them highly dependent. If their partner shows any sign of wavering, they become extremely anxious, fearing they'll be abandoned too. Rather than being driven by a strong desire for love, they seek a safe harbor or a pillar of support, and whether this person truly loves them can become unimportant.

As a result, they may spend their lives relying on others and holding back their own opinions, which greatly increases their chances of being abandoned. When a partner decides to leave, they will neither express nor be able to voice any objection.